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June 21, 2010

Hey dad, I’ve got your back

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First Published : 19 Jun 2010 01:59:41 AM IST
Last Updated : 19 Jun 2010 09:46:52 AM IST

 

Parthipan and Keerthana

With a firm resolve and a chirpy personality Keerthana leads the pack with her skill and sensitivity. And single dad Parthipan is only too happy

Keerthana is very special to me and is truly a gift of God. When she was born, I never fathomed that she would be a girl child, who would be named Keerthana and who would act in a film called Kannathil Mutthamittaal and bring name and fame to me.

I was overjoyed to be the proud father handing over the award to her. Nandita Das was also present.

I was speechless. Normally, when it comes to giving a speech, I prepare really well and am very confident on stage. But Keerthana left me speechless and spellbound on that stage. When she decided to stay with me when my marriage broke, she displayed maturity beyond her years and that meant a lot to me. She had the option to either stay with her mom or her dad, and she chose me. And I was thinking that if not my daughters, I would definitely have my son by my side. She is like my mother. If you think she addresses me formally as dad, or appa, then I must say that much to everyone’s surprise, she addresses me as “idiot” (Laughs).

And I address them with “ponga vanga”. She manages my wardrobe and my accounts. In fact, our family auditor was all praise for her auditing. I am a very dependant person by nature and I have been very close to my mother, wife (Seetha) and daughters Abhinaya aka Abhi (19) and Keerthana (18), and even my son Radhakrishnan aka Rakki (16). Abhinaya is an embodiment of love I would say.

The way she handles crisis is something I am amazed at every time. Keerthana has always been a mature yet merry child. Her decision to act at the age of nine was purely her own. She calls the shots on what works for her.

She is firm about her decisions and faces the consequences. I am an incredibly proud d a d .

May 5 happens to be our 3-year-old pet pug, Vodka’s birthday. And this birthday was spent in a very special way at a restaurant with cakes. It was a lot of fun, and she tells me, that the ‘human age’ of her pet is 21 years based on some calculation (Laughs).

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June 20, 2010

Fight for the rights of the father – 20 june rajsahthan patrika

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Single Father on Father's Day

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Men to boycott family courts tomorrow

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Men to boycott family courts tomorrow

 

Alleging that men are always given a raw deal by the judiciary in marriage disputes, the All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWF) has called for a nation wide boycott of family courts on June 18.

The boycott comes on the eve of the Father’s Day which falls on June 20.

Uma Challa, president of AIMWF, told reporters here today that it was high time the family courts changed their outlook. The courts are behaving in a heartless manner on marital disputes. In the case of every divorce, the child is always separated from its father which is a human rights violation. The courts are ignoring the fact that a child needs both the parents. Only in extreme cases can a child be favoured to be with mother.” she opined.

NFHS submits MEMO to CJ Dinakaran

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Nationwide Boycott of the Family Courts

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Nationwide Boycott of the Family Courtsby IndiaPRwire – Press/News Releases on June 16, 2010

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NFHS is joining a Nationwide Boycott of the Family Courts called for by All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA) on 18 June 2010 as a sign of protest against the Family Court system which blatantly discriminates against fathers, heartlessly separates them from and prevents their access to their own biological children.

June 16, 2010 /India PRwire/ — About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 14500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

NFHS is joining a Nationwide Boycott of the Family Courts called for by All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA) on 18 June 2010 as a sign of protest against the Family Court system which blatantly discriminates against fathers, heartlessly separates them from and prevents their access to their own biological children.

We concur with the recent observation of the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India that “the Hindu Marriage Act is breaking more families than uniting”. We would like to add that the worst sufferers of the Indian Family Court system are fathers and children.

Indian Family Courts have declared a war against fathers and are adopting every possible means to create a “Fatherless Society”. The modus operandi of the Family Courts includes:

 

  • Depriving fathers of the right to love and care for their biological children.
  • Forcing fathers to pay huge sums of money to support children they are not allowed to see.
  • Encouraging false allegations of abuse to paint fathers as unfit parents.
  • Permitting multiple legal battles by mothers to eliminate biological fathers from their children’s lives.
  • Passing ex-parte orders based solely on the allegations made by a child’s mother.
  • Allowing mothers to brazenly disobey visitation orders without legal repercussions to her.
  • Allowing biological fathers to be labelled “kidnappers” for trying to make contact with their own children.
  • Prolonging custody/visitation matters for years, thereby driving fathers into financial and emotional bankruptcy and forcing them to give up the desire to see their children.

It is time everyone recognizes that:

– Denying access to one’s own biological children is abuse of human rights.

– Depriving children of the love and care of their biological father is abuse of children’s rights.

NFHS hereby registers its vehement protest against the separation of fathers from their biological children, and the concomitant violation of Human Rights perpetrated by the Family Court system against fathers and children.

NFHS shall continue to agitate against the Family Court system until the following demands are met:

  • Special fast-track courts should be set up at the earliest to deal with custody issues.
  • Exclusive, fully functioning Divisional Bench should be set up in all High Courts and Supreme Court to hear appeals in matters of child custody.
  • When a person or couple approaches court for divorce, counseling of the parents by professional counselors should be given first priority.
  • Except in extreme cases of violence or unhealthy behavior by either partner, children should be given equal and meaningful access to both parents and grandparents on both sides.
  • Both parents should be given financial responsibility of the child proportionate to their earnings and not based on demands made by either partner.
  • If a partner prevents a child from having equal and meaningful contact with the other partner, they should be counseled first to understand the importance of equal parenting and the best interest of a child.
  • If either partner repeatedly disobeys orders of equal access and meaningful contact with children, then the children should be placed in the full custody of the partner who will allow equal access to the other parent.
  • Similar to the way the granting of maintenance to an estranged wife is made as a rule irrespective of whether she erred or not, granting 50% parenting should be made as a rule irrespective of whether the father is paying the maintenance or not, whether he has erred or not.
  • 50% child custody should be a Right of the Father rather than an option. 50% child custody should be started from the 2nd year of the child. No father should be rejected of the 50% child custody even if he is a criminal.
  • Maintenance should be denied to the wife if she rejects 50% child custody to the father.
  • Family Courts should ensure that Child will not be used as a bargaining tool for maintenance & alimony by the wife.

NFHS hereby calls upon all fathers to

– Join our Nationwide Boycott of Family Courts on 18 June 2010 as a symbol of protest against the creation of a fatherless society!

– Sign our Petition listing out the changes we demand from the Family Court system in child custody matters!

– Refuse to pay maintenance and child support unless the aforementioned demands are met!

Settle for nothing less than free and fair access to their children and an equal opportunity to build a meaningful relationship with their children!

Helpline operated by NFHS in Bangalore…

  • 9880141531, P Suresh, President, Family Harmony Society
  • 9731569970, M Mahesh, General Secretary, Family Harmony Society

Source: Press release distribution via India PRwire

Notes to Editor

For more information please contact…

P Suresh, President, M Mahesh, General Secretary,

9880141531 9731569970

You are also requested to visit…

www.498a.org.in / www.family-harmony.org

For more information, please contact:
P Suresh (President, FHS) (L) 9880141531, (M) 9880141531

Memorandum on the occasion of Fathers’ Day

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http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/06/19/memorandum-on-the-occasion-of-fathers%E2%80%99-day/

Memorandum on the occasion of Fathers’ Day

Saturday, June 19, 2010

By Uma Challa

18th June, 2010

To

Hon’ble Chief Justice

High Court of Andhra Pradesh

Subject: Seeking justice for Fathers and Children separated due to marital discords

Hon’ble Justice,

We seek your personal and valuable intervention in setting right the gross injustice being done to men and children in matters of matrimonial conflicts where custody of children is granted only to women, with total disregard to the love and affection that fathers and children have towards each other.

Fathers are denied custody as a rule rather than an exception. If at all visitation is ordered to fathers, it is limited to 30 min or 1 hour in a month contrary to the requirement of the UN resolution that no child should be denied access to either of the parents.

We are constrained to bring to your notice that Indian Family Courts appear to have declared a war against fathers and are adopting every possible means to create a “fatherless society” and to reduce men to mere ATM machines and sperm donors.

Family Courts have adopted the unhealthy practice of

 

  • Depriving fathers of the right to love and care for their biological children.
  • Forcing fathers to pay huge sums of money to support children they are not allowed to see.
  • Encouraging false allegations of abuse to paint fathers as unfit parents.
  • Permitting multiple legal battles to eliminate biological fathers from their children’s lives.
  • Passing ex-parte orders based solely on the allegations made by a child’s mother.
  • Allowing mothers to brazenly disobey visitation orders without legal repercussions to them.
  • Allowing biological fathers to be labelled “kidnappers” for trying to make contact with their own children.
  • Prolonging custody/visitation matters for years, thereby driving fathers into financial and emotional bankruptcy and forcing them to give up the desire to see their children.

Cases filed in Family Courts linger on indefinitely while wives enjoy full custody of children, interim maintenance and child support at the expense of husbands.

The attitude of the Family Courts in the matters of ordering child custody/visitation, maintenance and alimony is completely biased against husbands.

While there is much emphasis on a wife’s rights on husbands and children, no order is passed on the responsibilities of a wife towards herself and her matrimonial family. Husbands, on the other hand, are heaped with disproportionate responsibilities with no rights over their wives or children.

The brazenly anti-male mindset of Indian Family Courts is making it a crime to be born male in India. The continued onslaught on men and manhood is gradually destroying the faith of men on the system of marriage and societal values as a whole. As a result many men are being forced to commit suicide or shun marriage altogether paving the way for a fatherless society full of single mothers in the future.

We request the Hon’ble Chief Justice to ponder over these issues and contribute towards promoting a congenial atmosphere in the Family Courts for men, women and children.

On the occasion of Fathers’ Day, we wish to make the following demands:

Reforms in Mediation Counseling and Pleadings:

 

  1. The presence of and pleadings by Advocates in the Family Court and mediation process should be eliminated as mandated by the Family Courts Act.
  2. Persons who are professionally qualified and have a balanced perspective on family and society should be appointed as counsellors and mediators.
  3. Counsellors and mediators should be adequately compensated fixing a rate of at least Rs. 20,000 per case, made payable by the spouses equally.
  4. Mediators should be given exclusive powers to decide on dates and adjournments and should be required to conduct mediations and counselling throughout the year without holidays.
  5. No in-camera and chamber proceedings should be held unless absolutely necessary and the purpose duly recorded in the Court register.

Perjury

 

  1. Courts should order perjury and contempt proceedings in case of exaggerated statements and false allegations or affidavits related to employment, earnings, cruelty etc. when such allegations are proved to be false.
  2. Spouses making false allegations should be punished under the appropriate sections of the Indian Penal Code.

Child Custody matters:

 

Family Courts should ensure that both parents are given equal custody of children irrespective of the accusations of either party (such as a mother being adulterous or a father being a drunkard). The practice of showing children for 30 minutes or 1 hour like a TV show to a father without providing him an opportunity to demonstrate his fatherly care and affection should be done away with. We strongly denounce the attitude of the Family Courts which consider children as the exclusive property of the wife and totally deny access to the husband and his family while passing interim and final orders.

We strongly condemn the belief of the Family Courts that the husband alone is bound to earn and maintain his wife and children, even though the wife is either earning or sufficiently qualified to earn.

The practice of passing orders for monetary compensation, should be done away with and instead, parents should be directed to share the responsibilities like buying medical insurance, pay the school fee, purchase clothes, books etc., for children based on their respective and combined financial capacities.

The following steps should be immediately taken by Family Courts across the country to uphold the rights of fathers and ensure the welfare of children:

  • Special fast-track courts should be set up at the earliest to deal with custody issues.
  • Exclusive, fully functioning Divisional Bench should be set up in all High Courts and Supreme Court to hear appeals in matters of child custody.
  • When a person or couple approaches court for divorce, counseling of the parents by professional counselors should be given first priority.
  • Except in extreme cases of violence or unhealthy behavior by either partner, children should be given equal and meaningful access to both parents and grandparents on both sides.
  • Both parents should be given financial responsibility of the child proportionate to their earnings and not based on demands made by either partner.
  • If a partner prevents a child from having equal and meaningful contact with the other partner, they should be counseled first to understand the importance of equal parenting and the best interest of a child.
  • If either partner repeatedly disobeys orders of equal access and meaningful contact with children, then the children should be placed in the full custody of the partner who will allow equal access to the other parent.

We submit that our demands are just and reasonable and that the non-implementation of our demands will result in serious consequences to men, women, children, families and the society as a whole.

We enclose, herewith, the petitions signed by hundreds of fathers in the Family Courts in Hyderabad.

We look forward to your prompt intervention and necessary action in this regard.

Sincerely,

President

All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA

Father's Day – Mera Bacha Mera Khoon Hai…Koi Weekend TV Program Nahi

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Memo seeking justice to dads in marital discord

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http://expressbuzz.com/cities/bangalore/memo-seeking-justice-to-dads-in-marital-discord/183086.html

First Published : 20 Jun 2010 05:29:09 AM IST
Last Updated : 20 Jun 2010 09:22:16 AM IST

 

BANGALORE: In view of the upcoming Fathers’ Day, the National Family Harmony Society, a city-based NGO submitted a memorandum to Chief Justice of the High Court PD Dinakaran on Saturday, seeking justice for fathers and children separated due to marital discords.

The memorandum demanded reforms in mediation and counselling. The NHFS demanded that advocates should be barred from the mediation process in family court as mandated by the Family Courts Act.

The NGO demanded that no in-camera and chamber proceedings should be held unless absolutely necessary and the purpose should be duly recorded in the court register. The memorandum asked the courts to order perjury and contempt proceedings in case of exaggerated statements and false allegations or affidavits related to cruelty.

Spouses making false allegations should be punished under the appropriate sections of the IPC.

Fathers Day Rally – TOI Coverage-Endless agony for daddy dears

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Endless agony for daddy dears

— Priyanka Kumari
TIMES NEWS NETWORK

Bangalore: “Even before prosecution, I have been sentenced for life. Living away from my child is like a punishment”, said Pradeep Kumar (name changed). Blessed with a loving son, his was a happy married life. In 2002, his company transferred him to Mumbai. He shifted on the pretext that his wife would join him in six months, after he is settled. That never happened. His life fell apart. Now, the couple is divorced and the wife has the custody of the child.
   “Since 2005, I have been separated from my child. I haven’t had the chance to spend even a week with him. I met him for a day or two, which was possible when my in-laws were here because that was the assigned venue. In January they shifted to some other city. Now I am not even allowed that”, he said with a heavy voice.
   On the eve of Fathers Day, people from various walks of life — senior citizens, harassed husbands and single fathers — got together to protest against creation of fatherless society.
   “Shared access of the child is what we demand. When women can work then why can’t fathers be homemakers? Separated couples should continue to be friends, for the child’s sake”, said Kumar Jahgirdar, president, Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), an NGO.
   Added P Suresh, another father separated from his child, “There should be equal rights for both parents, keeping necessities of the child in mind. Special fasttrack courts should be set up for such cases. The cases normally drag for 10-15 years and by that time a child is grown up, ready to start his/her own family”.
   “Our aim is to sensitize the judiciary. We have been submitting memorandum to the judges. A child needs both parents. Visitation permits given to fathers are like weekend television programme for two hours. This must change,” said Virag Dhulia, PRO, Save Indian Family Foundation.

MOTHERS-IN-LAW PROTEST TOO
Neena Dhulia, president, Karnataka Mother In-Law Association, protesting at the rally organized by CRISP said: “Fathers are the silent sufferers. The Dowry Act and the Domestic Violence Act are at times used on innocent people. The loopholes in these Acts are misused to harass families. Is there any law to protect us from this? When a child is in the custody of the mother, the in-laws are also denied access to him. ”

 On eve of Father’s Day, harassed husbands, single dads protested against creation of a fatherless society.

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